Monday, May 19, 2014

The Shackle Impact

My second book Shackled has been out for two years and I am astounded at the strong response I still receive sometimes, on a daily basis. Today, I want to share some of the words of my readers, people I’ve never met but feel bound to by a common thread, a passion to stop the sickness of abuse in relationships.

Not long after Shackled was published, I went to visit a Jr. High. A beautiful young lady bought my book.  I happened to run across her mother several weeks later and asked how she liked Shackled.  Her mother complained at me saying she couldn’t get her out of her room during a visit from her grandparents because she was too busy reading(which was not typical.)  I then asked what her reaction to the story was and she said “I never want to be in Lucy’s situation!”
I stood there saying things like, “Oh that’s good,” but inside I was jumping for joy thinking Yes I scared the crap out of a little girl. Maybe now, she’ll see the signs of abuse before they happen.

Of course I didn’t really want to scare her, but I was thrilled to scare her away from any form of abuse.

 She’s not the only one to have a strong reaction to Shackled’s message.

I also received amazing emails.  I’d like to share one in particular. The author of the email has given me permission to use her words and her name in hopes that her story could help someone else. She is Charlie Anderson. She is a talented blogger. If you want to connect with her, here’s her link.

She writes that both she and her best friend unwittingly found themselves in an abusive situation just like Lucy in Shackled.

She writes of her friend “she admitted that she came to get me because he(her controlling boyfriend) tried to take her life. More than once. I don't know if I've ever held a person harder in my life. Much, much later she told me that my reaction scared the living shit out of her, that someone could care so much, that it kind of scared her straight.

It amazed me that a simple thing like Charlie’s love and concern gave direly needed strengthen to her friend and helped her pull out a bad cycle. Infuriatingly, women who are trapped by controlling men have been belittled to a point where they don’t feel worthy of love anymore, yet love is what will build them up again.

Further on in the email, she writes of her own personal experience, that frankly took her completely by surprise.

“January after that summer, I became a Lucy. (My Ryan) was tall, dark, handsome, with the cutest grin and warm brown eyes. I saw lots of red flags and warning signs….He drove a wedge between me and my best friend, a rend in our relationship that could not be fixed.

She goes on to admit “I think I just wanted to feel loved and love someone else more than anything”

I can understand that. We are taught that being loved and desired is paramount. Our media is replete with that message, so is our literature. The worst part, the message is true….Being loved and loving in return is what makes life worth living…IF that love given to us is selfless and kind, not the counterfeit that controllers offer! 

Charlie’s story ends well but not until after she suffers from serious health problems including profound weight loss. 

In her own words, this is how it finally ended. “I am so happy to say that after a year of on-off-on-off and all of this and the bipolar emotions and attitudes, I broke my shackles. The final straw came on Wednesday afternoon - January 18, 2012 - when he threw a fit about always paying for everything, that I was not contributing my share to "make it work".

She’d had enough of the guilt, and constant pressure and criticism.  My hat is off to you Charlie and the hundreds of women like you who break free from these controlling relationships!

To all the women who have shared their scary experiences and tender feelings, I thank you. I have been strengthened by your strength and driven even more to carry the message to all women that they should be cherished and never controlled.

To end this post, I want to give away five copies of Shackled. If you know someone who you think could benefit from Lucy’s story, drop me an email ( or leave a comment and I’ll send a personalized copy to you to pass on or to them directly. Thanks so much for stopping by.

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